Remembering those First Days of a Newborn

It's my daughter Annie's birthday today. Annie is our firstborn. She ushered us gently into parenthood 32 years ago. On day two she slept so long that we sat around her woven Moses basket like we were humans examining an alien being. The conversation went something like this: "She's so perfect." "Yes. She is SO … Continue reading Remembering those First Days of a Newborn

On Birthday Cards and Aunt Charlotte

Each year for as long as I can remember, I would receive a birthday card from my Aunt Charlotte. It didn't matter where I was in the world - that card always came. While other aunts lived in nice suburban houses with picket fences and bay windows, Aunt Charlotte lived in the city - New … Continue reading On Birthday Cards and Aunt Charlotte

I Like Family – Family is my Favorite

In a faded, old photo album I read the words "Family makes you feel whole and strong - vibrant and needed." The words are typed on an ancient typewriter, long gone in our travels and moves from house to house and country to country. The pictures that surround the words have lost their color and … Continue reading I Like Family – Family is my Favorite

Everyone’s Gone!

Sun shines through lace half-curtains, creating a whimsical shadow on the floor. Through open windows, birds are loudly and happily communicating the joy of what life brings to them.  It is a picture-perfect day - and it is also absolutely quiet in our home.  Everyone is gone.  For the past eight days, there have been … Continue reading Everyone’s Gone!

Dear Dorothy – A Letter to my Mother-in-Law

Tomorrow I will board a plane and travel to Florida for my mother-in-law's funeral. Since we found out last week, I have been thinking about death - how final it is, how permanent it seems, and how unreal it is until you are actually back in a place where the person lived. I read these … Continue reading Dear Dorothy – A Letter to my Mother-in-Law

On Death and Living in the Moment

Today's post is from my daughter-in-law Lauren. She is amazing and I love her words in this piece. You can read more about her work here. Thanks for reading! New Years Eve, four years ago.  It was 9 days before my dad died, but we didn't know that then. Cancer doesn't give you a timeline. … Continue reading On Death and Living in the Moment

Foundations & Generations 

We traveled to Los Angeles this weekend for an early Christmas with our son and daughter in law. It was a beautiful weekend with sun and palm trees, the warmer temperatures a welcome change from an arctic freeze. Our East coast cold can chill the bones and the soul.  From eating our fill of great … Continue reading Foundations & Generations 

To the One Who Got Pregnant too Soon

I woke with a familiar pressure on my bladder. It was the middle of the night, and I needed to go to the bathroom. I came back to bed in tears. "I think I'm pregnant." I whispered to my sleepy husband as I shook his shoulder. "That's ridiculous" he said as he turned over and … Continue reading To the One Who Got Pregnant too Soon

Oh Canada

Today I’m boarding a plane and going home. While the Canada Goose is turning her beak to the south, I’m turning mine to the north. I’m off to Canada! Canada is where my story started. There’s a warm and weird nostalgia that comes over me when I think about Canada and all things Canadian: Coffee … Continue reading Oh Canada

Conversation and Laughter at a Funeral Home

The New Comer Funeral Home is in a primarily residential area in Rochester, New York. It is a one story, unassuming building and the only indication that its business is death is the word "funeral." We arrived at the funeral home on a bleak and rainy Friday afternoon for an appointment at 1pm. No one had died. There … Continue reading Conversation and Laughter at a Funeral Home

Until Next Time

His eyes are so much like his mom's that I am startled. He nestles into my shoulder, knowing that I'm not his mom, but that somehow - I am safe. I stare and stare and I have no concept of time. I realize that I could stare at this wonder all day. This wonder is … Continue reading Until Next Time

Love Goes the Extra Mile

We've just come back from a family vacation where we spent seven nights near the Smoky Mountains in northern Tennessee. Every morning we woke up to far off frothy fogs rising up between the hills and ridges across the horizon. Every evening we watched the sun's benediction settle over and under and behind the mountains. … Continue reading Love Goes the Extra Mile

The Places we Belong

“The place to which you feel the strongest attachment isn’t necessarily the country you’re tied to by blood or birth: it’s the place that allows you to become yourself. This place may not lie on any map.” – Jhumpa Lahiri On Saturday we celebrated my father's 90th birthday. 90 years! It is incredible to think … Continue reading The Places we Belong

The Spelling Bee–A Primer in Parenting

Over the past several weeks I’ve met several moms that are, by their own admission, floundering. They love their children but they experience moments of great rage. They love their children but they long for quiet times without them. They love their children but guilt falls thick when they experience other longings. I want to … Continue reading The Spelling Bee–A Primer in Parenting

Some Thoughts From Adult TCKs to Those Who Raise Them – Part 2

A year and a half ago I put out a request to a group of adult TCKs asking what advice or thoughts they might have for the parents of TCKs. The response was excellent and informative. Responders ranged from 25 to 60 and everything in between. I have been asked ever since then to do a … Continue reading Some Thoughts From Adult TCKs to Those Who Raise Them – Part 2

Eight-Acre Woods

 Growing up overseas, we had no family home. Rather, every place we lived had a different name, generally given to the house by the previous owners or missionaries gone by. Through the years we lived in Baker Building, the Johnson's house (later named Shah Latif), Park House, Rosenheim, Kuldana Cottage and Forest Dell. All these houses … Continue reading Eight-Acre Woods

Thank you Taylor Swift!

Thank you Taylor Swift by Robynn All summer long our youngest daughter has been dreading entering the eighth grade. Seventh grade wasn’t a positive experience for her. She really loathed it. Friendships changed. She bravely tried out for tennis and basketball but didn’t make the teams. She ran for student council but didn’t win the position … Continue reading Thank you Taylor Swift!

National Middle Child Day

Today is National Middle Child Day. I didn't know this until this morning when the joys of social media alerted me. I'm glad they did. Because my middle child, Micah, turned 27 on Monday and with traveling I had not had a chance to celebrate him through writing. The following is a blog post that … Continue reading National Middle Child Day