Culture Shock: When Your Soul Takes Longer to Arrive

First you arrive physically and you are very tired. But only after a while, your soul gets here, too. Because the plane is very fast, but the soul takes longer to arrive.* On Friday, my youngest son arrived home after two months of travel. He experienced hospitality, adventure, and food across Albania, Greece, Bulgaria, and … Continue reading Culture Shock: When Your Soul Takes Longer to Arrive

A Life Overseas -Thoughts on Entry, Reentry, and Third Culture Kids

Every summer I begin thinking about change and transition, about reentry and culture shock. With the first warm breezes of the season, I am transported to places and times where this was my reality. And I begin to hear stories from others who are going through these transitions. The stories are told in photographs and … Continue reading A Life Overseas -Thoughts on Entry, Reentry, and Third Culture Kids

Keep the Lego! (and other thoughts from adult TCKs)

Each year, I pick some TCK quotes to pass on to parents. Some of the quotes are poignant, some funny, but most of all - I think they are wise. The third culture kid is not a single person with one viewpoint; instead it is kids all over the world, each with their unique story … Continue reading Keep the Lego! (and other thoughts from adult TCKs)

An Excerpt on Friendship & Loss

Friends, there is a giveaway of Passages Through Pakistan on Goodreads! It ends on June 7th, and two books will be given away. In honor of the giveaway, I've included an excerpt from the book on friendship and loss. I hope you enjoy! Also - the electronic version of Passages will be released on June … Continue reading An Excerpt on Friendship & Loss

When You Can’t Settle in the Place You Call Home

A couple of years ago, an anonymous letter came to Communicating Across Boundaries. The letter began like this: It just doesn't go away.... The writer goes on to speak of an unsettled weariness and dissatisfaction, a boredom with life in one's passport country. "I’m afraid I may have a chronic case of ennui. Most of … Continue reading When You Can’t Settle in the Place You Call Home

A Life Overseas – A Third Culture Kid’s Story of Faith

Readers, I'm over at A Life Overseas today and I would love it if you joined me! There is no single story when it comes to the third culture kid; the missionary kid. While we can learn and grow from research and the common themes that have emerged to form a perspective, each child has … Continue reading A Life Overseas – A Third Culture Kid’s Story of Faith

Passages Through Pakistan – Film & Reviews

The train rounds a bend. The rest of the cars appear one by one, all tied to one another far into the distance. It comes as a surprise to be tied to things so far back Human Landscapes from My Country by Nazım Hikmet ____________________________________________________ As many of you know, Passages Through Pakistan: An American … Continue reading Passages Through Pakistan – Film & Reviews

Moving Manifesto

Note: This essay is from Between Worlds: Essays on Culture and Belonging available here. April is the time when it hits many people that their reality is changing and a move is inevitable. This post is dedicated to all those who will be moving in the next 3 months. Be ruthless - check Don't go into memory … Continue reading Moving Manifesto

The Gift of the In Between 

I get up early to write. The early morning sky is grey, not even a hint of sunlight. A mix of snow and rain is in the forecast.  I get up early to write; instead I find myself reading. Reading a poignant essay; an essay made of maps and grief, lost things and home. It's … Continue reading The Gift of the In Between 

On Being Local – A Guest Post

I'm delighted to welcome Michael Pollock to my blog today! Michael is a fellow ATCK, but he's also a friend and someone who "gets" this journey. Read more about Michael at the end of the post.   ON BEING LOCAL I was fascinated by Taiye Selassi’s Ted talk, “Don’t ask me where I’m from, ask … Continue reading On Being Local – A Guest Post

On Perspective Taking

One of the best things about the Families in Global Transition Conference this past week was the diversity of perspectives from around the world. While all of us had an deep interest in living between worlds, we all come to it with different perspectives. Perspective taking - it's something I think about a lot. Below … Continue reading On Perspective Taking

My Heart Bends East 

 It's early morning in the Netherlands. I have just left The Hague and with it, a rich time of friendship and learning.  We are on a train headed to Schiphol Airport. Our family and friends in the United States are still in deep sleep. Our friends in the East have been wide awake for … Continue reading My Heart Bends East 

Full Heart at #FIGT17NL 

I'm sitting in bed in a modern hotel room in  The Hague - that famous city known for tribunals and the Peace Palace.  There is much I could write about this city from the small amount of time I've been here, but it is nothing compared to what I could write about the people and … Continue reading Full Heart at #FIGT17NL 

Memories of Home – A Guest Post

Murree Christian School P.O. Jhika Gali, Murree Hills, Pakistan I can picture the scene as if it was yesterday.  I am lying on the top bunk in my dormitory. The louvered windows allow a mountain breeze to come through and the sun shines brightly through pine trees.  It is springtime in Murree and I am … Continue reading Memories of Home – A Guest Post

“How do we say that God is good when life is not?”

  "How do we say that God is good when life is not?" I read the words and my eyes brim with tears. I'm sitting by the window and bright sun radiating off fresh snow bathes the room in cold light. I continue reading: "And what, if anything, can be made of the prayers we've … Continue reading “How do we say that God is good when life is not?”

Passages Through Pakistan – An Excerpt

The train rounds a bend. The rest of the cars appear one by one, all tied to one another far into the distance It comes as a surprise to be tied to things so far back Nazım Hikmet, Human Landscapes from My Country We moved from town to town during my childhood, but I was … Continue reading Passages Through Pakistan – An Excerpt

Finding Your Niche at #FIGT17NL

In 2014, I hosted a blog series called "Finding Your Niche: Using a Multicultural Past to Create a Meaningful Present." The result was a set of essays from adult third culture kids, each different and each exploring what it was to find a niche as an adult. Writers talked about the jobs and communities they had … Continue reading Finding Your Niche at #FIGT17NL

The Travelers

“Time was passing like a hand waving from a train I wanted to be on. I hope you never have to think about anything as much as I think about you.” ― Jonathan Safran Foer The picture of the sculpture is so remarkable I think that it cannot be real. It must be a photograph, digitally … Continue reading The Travelers