A Life Overseas – Capable of Complexity

I'm at A Life Overseas talking about needing to be capable of complexity when we talk about the TCK experience! I loved growing up overseas. I loved that I knew how to traverse the globe at a young age, that I grew up on curry and hot pakoras, that I could see some of the highest mountains in the … Continue reading A Life Overseas – Capable of Complexity

Goodbye 250

I get on the bus and swipe my Charlie Card, my ticket to discounted rides for the last ten and a half years. The bus driver nods as I say hello. There is room to sit down, but I stand. Central Square is a 12-minute walk from my house, but the bus is a wonderful … Continue reading Goodbye 250

On Patriotic Parfaits and Competing Loyalties

The picture shows a perfect patriotic parfait: blue jello, white whipped cream, red strawberries. Above the perfect parfait was a sign that read "Patriotic Parfait. These Colors Don't Run!" Click the mouse and there's another version - blueberries, whipped cream, strawberries, more whipped cream. Red.White.Blue.Red.White.Blue - the colors echo through the dessert. And indeed, it is gorgeous.  … Continue reading On Patriotic Parfaits and Competing Loyalties

The Last Week – A Graduation Story for the TCK

It is the last week of June and graduation season for this year will soon be behind us.  In any culture, graduations are milestones and rites of passage. They are filled with excitement and butterfly stomachs, a clear sense of accomplishment and an expectation for what might lie ahead. But for the third culture kid, … Continue reading The Last Week – A Graduation Story for the TCK

3 AM in the First Class Lounge

I have never been in a first class lounge before. This hits me as I sit in a chair at three o'clock in the morning at a first class lounge in the Qatar Airport, my head resting on on of those brilliant, semi-circled plane pillows. We are here because of an extra long layover after … Continue reading 3 AM in the First Class Lounge

Graduation Gifts for Your TCK

Every where I look I see graduations. Cambridge and Boston are alive with the activity and color of students who have finished their college or graduate school education. From the bright red gowns of Boston University to the maroon gowns of Harvard, you can't escape this season. And neither can your third culture kid who … Continue reading Graduation Gifts for Your TCK

Born to Belong

"When you’ve spent your whole life as a cultural chameleon, you end up not knowing what color you were when you started, who you might have been had you been from someplace, what it feels like to belong fully to a people, a tribe, a neighborhood, a city." from Rachel Hicks in "To My Adult TCK … Continue reading Born to Belong

God of the Displaced and Exiled

Oh God of the displaced and exiled, Hear the prayers of those in limbo. Wipe the tears of mothers who parent children without a home. Feed those who are hungry; keep safe those who are in danger. Give strength to the helpers and the healers; to those who work tirelessly for justice. Give us the … Continue reading God of the Displaced and Exiled

A Life Overseas – Saint Photini: Missionary, Martyr, and Beloved One

I'm at a A Life Overseas today! I would love it if you joined me there to talk about a story familiar to many.  One of the best-known yet least known stories in the Gospel of John is about a woman known simply as the “Samaritan Woman.” The familiar story tells us that Jesus had … Continue reading A Life Overseas – Saint Photini: Missionary, Martyr, and Beloved One

So, You Want to go Back ‘Home’?

There come's a time in the lives of most adult third culture kids, many expats, as well as immigrants and refugees when they want to go 'home.' Sometimes it's after a short time of living away; other times it's after years, but always it comes with a sense of great anticipation coupled with a strong … Continue reading So, You Want to go Back ‘Home’?

Fearfully & Wonderfully Body Scanned

"Take off all of my clothes?" My voice intonates the last word as a question, rather like a child who asks her teacher if she has to complete all of the homework assignment. I am sitting on an exam table under fluorescent lights in a clinic.  I feel cold, not only because it is an … Continue reading Fearfully & Wonderfully Body Scanned

Home is Not an Answer to a Question

"Home is not an answer to a question. It is my grandmother’s front porch where I first saw how dark the night was supposed to be. It is the swimming pool in our first apartment complex in Portland where I learned to see without looking, underwater with my eyes closed like the mermaid I knew … Continue reading Home is Not an Answer to a Question

Amphibians, Chameleons, and Cross Cultural Kids

"But those people who are fishes out of water were often the most vibrant ones in the room. I’ve begun to recognize a social type, the Amphibians — people who can thrive in radically different environments." David Brooks "The Rise of the Amphibians" In a recent article in the New York Times, David Brooks writes … Continue reading Amphibians, Chameleons, and Cross Cultural Kids

A Life Overseas – Creating Place

I'm at A Life Overseas today talking about creating a sense of place and home. I would love it if you joined me!  In recent years, authors have released a plethora of Christian books about home and place. From Jen Pollock Michel’s Keeping Place to Tish Oxenreider’s At Home in the World, many have a lot to say … Continue reading A Life Overseas – Creating Place

Normalizing Departure

"...but we also knew what it was like to feel temporary, to keep your eye on the clock, to normalise the inevitability of departure so completely that you didn’t think about it, even though you always thought about it." It was six years ago when my mom told me that from age 6 through age … Continue reading Normalizing Departure

On East and West (and In Between!)

A few months ago I was invited to do an interview with Orthodox Christian Network. The interview was with Father Chris Metropulos, President of Hellenic College Holy Cross in Brookline, Massachusetts. I was invited to respond to several questions about growing up in Pakistan, about living in both Pakistan and Egypt as an adult, but … Continue reading On East and West (and In Between!)

My Response to #Metoo

Social media has been alive and active with the status "Me Too" - largely posted by women. Some have just typed the words "Me Too" or #metoo, while others have put a longer explanation under the words. If all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote "Me too" as a status, we … Continue reading My Response to #Metoo