The Last Week – A Graduation Story for the TCK

It is the last week of June and graduation season for this year will soon be behind us.  In any culture, graduations are milestones and rites of passage. They are filled with excitement and butterfly stomachs, a clear sense of accomplishment and an expectation for what might lie ahead. But for the third culture kid, … Continue reading The Last Week – A Graduation Story for the TCK

3 AM in the First Class Lounge

I have never been in a first class lounge before. This hits me as I sit in a chair at three o'clock in the morning at a first class lounge in the Qatar Airport, my head resting on on of those brilliant, semi-circled plane pillows. We are here because of an extra long layover after … Continue reading 3 AM in the First Class Lounge

Graduation Gifts for Your TCK

Every where I look I see graduations. Cambridge and Boston are alive with the activity and color of students who have finished their college or graduate school education. From the bright red gowns of Boston University to the maroon gowns of Harvard, you can't escape this season. And neither can your third culture kid who … Continue reading Graduation Gifts for Your TCK

Born to Belong

"When you’ve spent your whole life as a cultural chameleon, you end up not knowing what color you were when you started, who you might have been had you been from someplace, what it feels like to belong fully to a people, a tribe, a neighborhood, a city." from Rachel Hicks in "To My Adult TCK … Continue reading Born to Belong

A Life Overseas – Saint Photini: Missionary, Martyr, and Beloved One

I'm at a A Life Overseas today! I would love it if you joined me there to talk about a story familiar to many.  One of the best-known yet least known stories in the Gospel of John is about a woman known simply as the “Samaritan Woman.” The familiar story tells us that Jesus had … Continue reading A Life Overseas – Saint Photini: Missionary, Martyr, and Beloved One

If You Had a Few Weeks to Live, Where Would You Go?

If you had a few weeks to live, where would you go? A few years ago, writer Roger Cohen asked this question in an opinion piece in the New York Times called “In Search of Home.” He talked about the “landscape of childhood” that place of “unfiltered experience, of things felt rather than thought through, of the world in its … Continue reading If You Had a Few Weeks to Live, Where Would You Go?

So, You Want to go Back ‘Home’?

There come's a time in the lives of most adult third culture kids, many expats, as well as immigrants and refugees when they want to go 'home.' Sometimes it's after a short time of living away; other times it's after years, but always it comes with a sense of great anticipation coupled with a strong … Continue reading So, You Want to go Back ‘Home’?

Fearfully & Wonderfully Body Scanned

"Take off all of my clothes?" My voice intonates the last word as a question, rather like a child who asks her teacher if she has to complete all of the homework assignment. I am sitting on an exam table under fluorescent lights in a clinic.  I feel cold, not only because it is an … Continue reading Fearfully & Wonderfully Body Scanned

Amphibians, Chameleons, and Cross Cultural Kids

"But those people who are fishes out of water were often the most vibrant ones in the room. I’ve begun to recognize a social type, the Amphibians — people who can thrive in radically different environments." David Brooks "The Rise of the Amphibians" In a recent article in the New York Times, David Brooks writes … Continue reading Amphibians, Chameleons, and Cross Cultural Kids

No Better Place Than This…

"Third culture kids, immigrants, refugees, foreigners." "We find each other in unlikely spaces. In the shared experience of other, we find belonging and rest, whether in a short ride to an airport or a long-distance phone conversation. These moments of connection seem to come at the right time, sustaining us until the next encounter, preventing us from … Continue reading No Better Place Than This…

”I’m not from here…wherever ‘here’ is.”

I’m from the edges of the map the edges of the Pacific I’m from the edges of the room the outside looking in I’m from Southeast Asia unless you mean my nationality I’m from the U.S. unless you mean where my heart is I’m not from here wherever “here” is by Cindy Montgomery Wyneken A … Continue reading ”I’m not from here…wherever ‘here’ is.”

A Life Overseas -Thoughts on Entry, Reentry, and Third Culture Kids

Every summer I begin thinking about change and transition, about reentry and culture shock. With the first warm breezes of the season, I am transported to places and times where this was my reality. And I begin to hear stories from others who are going through these transitions. The stories are told in photographs and … Continue reading A Life Overseas -Thoughts on Entry, Reentry, and Third Culture Kids

On Vanity and “Skiing Accidents”

"I think surgery is the best, maybe only, option."  I'm not surprised to hear these words from the surgeon sitting across from me. Aside from his appearance (he looks like he is 12) I think I trust him. I did the google on him, and evidently his competent 12 year old hands and brain have … Continue reading On Vanity and “Skiing Accidents”

The Gift of the In Between 

I get up early to write. The early morning sky is grey, not even a hint of sunlight. A mix of snow and rain is in the forecast.  I get up early to write; instead I find myself reading. Reading a poignant essay; an essay made of maps and grief, lost things and home. It's … Continue reading The Gift of the In Between 

On Being Local – A Guest Post

I'm delighted to welcome Michael Pollock to my blog today! Michael is a fellow ATCK, but he's also a friend and someone who "gets" this journey. Read more about Michael at the end of the post.   ON BEING LOCAL I was fascinated by Taiye Selassi’s Ted talk, “Don’t ask me where I’m from, ask … Continue reading On Being Local – A Guest Post

My Heart Bends East 

 It's early morning in the Netherlands. I have just left The Hague and with it, a rich time of friendship and learning.  We are on a train headed to Schiphol Airport. Our family and friends in the United States are still in deep sleep. Our friends in the East have been wide awake for … Continue reading My Heart Bends East 

The Story of a Christian/Muslim Friendship – a Guest Post

Every September, when cool breezes off the Nile River replaced the sweltering heat of summer, the expatriate community in Cairo, Egypt would reunite. Most employers planned a variety of activities to introduce any newcomers to Egypt in general, and the gigantic city of Cairo in particular. Our employer, the American University of Cairo, put together … Continue reading The Story of a Christian/Muslim Friendship – a Guest Post

I am Not Muslim: On Identiy Confusion Solidarity

During the weekend, an "I am a Muslim too" rally took place in New York City at Times Square. A picture of the event shows a large crowd gathered, all mouths opened in unison. A couple of white women are front and center, holding signs of a woman in a hijab made up of stars and … Continue reading I am Not Muslim: On Identiy Confusion Solidarity