Amphibians, Chameleons, and Cross Cultural Kids

"But those people who are fishes out of water were often the most vibrant ones in the room. I’ve begun to recognize a social type, the Amphibians — people who can thrive in radically different environments." David Brooks "The Rise of the Amphibians" In a recent article in the New York Times, David Brooks writes … Continue reading Amphibians, Chameleons, and Cross Cultural Kids

No Better Place Than This…

"Third culture kids, immigrants, refugees, foreigners." "We find each other in unlikely spaces. In the shared experience of other, we find belonging and rest, whether in a short ride to an airport or a long-distance phone conversation. These moments of connection seem to come at the right time, sustaining us until the next encounter, preventing us from … Continue reading No Better Place Than This…

”I’m not from here…wherever ‘here’ is.”

I’m from the edges of the map the edges of the Pacific I’m from the edges of the room the outside looking in I’m from Southeast Asia unless you mean my nationality I’m from the U.S. unless you mean where my heart is I’m not from here wherever “here” is by Cindy Montgomery Wyneken A … Continue reading ”I’m not from here…wherever ‘here’ is.”

A Life Overseas -Thoughts on Entry, Reentry, and Third Culture Kids

Every summer I begin thinking about change and transition, about reentry and culture shock. With the first warm breezes of the season, I am transported to places and times where this was my reality. And I begin to hear stories from others who are going through these transitions. The stories are told in photographs and … Continue reading A Life Overseas -Thoughts on Entry, Reentry, and Third Culture Kids

On Vanity and “Skiing Accidents”

"I think surgery is the best, maybe only, option."  I'm not surprised to hear these words from the surgeon sitting across from me. Aside from his appearance (he looks like he is 12) I think I trust him. I did the google on him, and evidently his competent 12 year old hands and brain have … Continue reading On Vanity and “Skiing Accidents”

The Gift of the In Between 

I get up early to write. The early morning sky is grey, not even a hint of sunlight. A mix of snow and rain is in the forecast.  I get up early to write; instead I find myself reading. Reading a poignant essay; an essay made of maps and grief, lost things and home. It's … Continue reading The Gift of the In Between 

On Being Local – A Guest Post

I'm delighted to welcome Michael Pollock to my blog today! Michael is a fellow ATCK, but he's also a friend and someone who "gets" this journey. Read more about Michael at the end of the post.   ON BEING LOCAL I was fascinated by Taiye Selassi’s Ted talk, “Don’t ask me where I’m from, ask … Continue reading On Being Local – A Guest Post

My Heart Bends East 

 It's early morning in the Netherlands. I have just left The Hague and with it, a rich time of friendship and learning.  We are on a train headed to Schiphol Airport. Our family and friends in the United States are still in deep sleep. Our friends in the East have been wide awake for … Continue reading My Heart Bends East 

The Story of a Christian/Muslim Friendship – a Guest Post

Every September, when cool breezes off the Nile River replaced the sweltering heat of summer, the expatriate community in Cairo, Egypt would reunite. Most employers planned a variety of activities to introduce any newcomers to Egypt in general, and the gigantic city of Cairo in particular. Our employer, the American University of Cairo, put together … Continue reading The Story of a Christian/Muslim Friendship – a Guest Post

I am Not Muslim: On Identiy Confusion Solidarity

During the weekend, an "I am a Muslim too" rally took place in New York City at Times Square. A picture of the event shows a large crowd gathered, all mouths opened in unison. A couple of white women are front and center, holding signs of a woman in a hijab made up of stars and … Continue reading I am Not Muslim: On Identiy Confusion Solidarity

Quotes on “Third Culture Kids”

The study of the third culture kid perspective is not static. Every year, new information and quotes can be found. I've compiled this short list of TCK quotes for you today. There are many, many more - but these are some that I have gathered or written the past few years. Please add to this … Continue reading Quotes on “Third Culture Kids”

Oh Canada

Today I’m boarding a plane and going home. While the Canada Goose is turning her beak to the south, I’m turning mine to the north. I’m off to Canada! Canada is where my story started. There’s a warm and weird nostalgia that comes over me when I think about Canada and all things Canadian: Coffee … Continue reading Oh Canada

Observations and Thoughts on the Third Culture Kid Perspective 

I just returned from a two-week trip to Cairo, Egypt where I was invited to speak at five different schools, to five different parent groups, and be a speaker at a youth retreat. I found the research specific literature to be invaluable in assisting me in my talks. Here are some of my observations from the … Continue reading Observations and Thoughts on the Third Culture Kid Perspective 

It’s Complicated!

For the past week I've had the privilege of spending time with third culture kids and their parents. It has been an amazing gift and I have learned so much from the people I've met. Over the weekend, I met a teenager who will be moving on to university next year. As I asked her … Continue reading It’s Complicated!

Everyone Has a Story

It came up again this weekend: the 'where are you from?' conversation. The conversation starter that has third culture kid's squirming and sweating, eager to leave the room and the conversation. A while back Cecily Thew over at Cecily.Mostly talked about laughing at a statement in the book To Sell is Human by Daniel H. … Continue reading Everyone Has a Story

The Cup of Mediocrity

"I would rather die of thirst than drink from the cup of mediocrity" A number of years ago, this slogan from Stella Artois brewing company hung on our kitchen cupboard. It stayed there for at least four years. It captured the essence of what we felt life should be - a striving for adventure, discovery, excellence, … Continue reading The Cup of Mediocrity