While We Wait for the Big Things Let’s do a Bunch of Little Things

I’ve continued to grieve the complex race issues we’ve seen played out over the last month here in the US. I don’t understand it. It hurts to hear more news of more injustice: black men shot dead, white police officers shot dead.  If I’m completely honest I’ve felt guilty for being white and I’ve felt […]

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Eyes to See

“What is true is that the world has always been this way, people have always been this way, grace always bats last, it just does–and finally, when all is said and done, and the dust settles, which it does, Love is sovereign here.” Anne Lamott on Facebook It’s been a hot, dry summer. Though I […]

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And Lady Liberty Weeps….

  “Give me your tired, your poor,” she says. Ah, but first we must verify income and employability; we must make sure these people fit with “our way of life.” We must make sure these creatures are not leeches who steal jobs from those who really belong. “Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,” Make sure the […]

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The Magic of a Picnic

When our children were small, and our bank accounts smaller, we would look at each other, laugh, and say “At least we can picnic!” And picnic we did. On lawns and in front yards, at rivers and on beaches, in play grounds and even indoors – there was always time for a picnic. Picnics have […]

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A Marriage and a Mirror

This past Friday, my husband and I celebrated our 32nd anniversary. Along with our anniversary, we celebrated a milestone – we met our first grandchild. There was something deeply moving about holding this small bundle of baby, knowing that he has no idea how beloved he already is. He is born to  parents that wanted him, planned […]

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For Love of Little K–a re-worked repost

I wrote this piece in August of 2014 after Michael Brown was shot. The town of Ferguson was in a state of shock and confusion. Peaceful protests eventually turned violent. It lasted for days. That was two years ago. Last week Alton Sterling was shot dead by a police officer on July 5, 2016 in […]

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Pondering Privilege – a Book Review

Pondering Privilege – Toward a Deeper Understanding of Whiteness, Race, and Faith* by Jody Wiley Fernando could not come to us at a better time. As media and newsfeeds fill with images and stories, many of us who are white really want to know how to do things better. Many of us, as uncomfortable as it is, […]

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Good Stories Behind Bad Headlines

The headlines chase us down, taunting us with their urgency, telling us to how to respond. They never stop. We may sleep, but the headlines don’t.  And they don’t want us to – not really. The person who is first to share or tweet a story gets the prize. Behind the bad headlines are some […]

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Speechless in the face of Our Wounded World

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My heart is reeling. There’s so much I want to write about race and violence and injustice. But that will have to wait. I have no capacity just now. To be honest I find myself without insight or wisdom. I have nothing but lament.  The world is wounded. Deeply deeply scarred. This country–among all other […]

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Imagine for a Moment…

“Rootlessness — the implied weakness of it — is treated as a failure. That is plainly schizophrenic: In a world where one in seven people is displaced, the failure must be of planetary scale. It belongs to all of us. This is a century of dislocation not merely of body and home, but also of […]

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On the Anniversary of a Death

Dear Brit, I woke up thinking about you today. It’s not the first time. For someone who doesn’t know you that well, it may seem odd. You entered our lives when Stef went on a gap year. You, Gilly, and Stef — I can just see the three of you taking Milan and YWAM by […]

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A House of Cards

Note: I wrote this piece four years ago, right after my fifth child graduated from high school. Before this past weekend, I felt exactly like this post. Then came the weekend and the gift of rest, the gift of peace. So I’m not in the same place right now. But perhaps some of you are […]

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Living as a Beloved One

We spontaneously dropped in on friends last evening. This area of the United States is not fond of spontaneous visits. Much better to plan. But planning gets wearisome and so we decided to go against the cultural norms. We arrived on our friends doorsteps as they were finishing dinner.  We picked the right people. We […]

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The Bubbles Inside our Heads

Every time I do a workshop on culturally responsive health care, I use the picture above. The audience sees it on a big screen and I give them a minute to take it in. Then I ask them “What’s wrong with this picture?” It’s not long until someone gets it; until someone says “They are stereotyping […]

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Still Life

They call it “still life” – a genre of art where the object or objects are inanimate. The artist has control over the subject and the painting, drawing, or photograph emerges from that control. It can be flowers, rocks, a glass, dishes, a pitcher — anything at all that doesn’t move. Still life art makes us […]

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Simply Grace

Frustrated, I stood outside a movie theatre. I had two extra tickets to a show, completely free, no strings attached. Two tickets on opening weekend of a show everyone was talking about – everyone wanted to see it.  My daughter’s two friends had been unable to attend, so rather than let the tickets go unused, we found […]

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The Places we Belong

“The place to which you feel the strongest attachment isn’t necessarily the country you’re tied to by blood or birth: it’s the place that allows you to become yourself. This place may not lie on any map.” – Jhumpa Lahiri On Saturday we celebrated my father’s 90th birthday. 90 years! It is incredible to think […]

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Moralistic Therapeutic Deism

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I had a moment this week where I fell into the magnetic force field of moralistic therapeutic deism. It seemed a good idea to repost this piece I originally wrote in October 2013— My husband Lowell recently read a book entitled, Soul Searching, by Christian Smith and Melina Lundquist Denton from Duke University. In it […]

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