Finding Your Niche at #FIGT17NL

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In 2014, I hosted a blog series called “Finding Your Niche: Using a Multicultural Past to Create a Meaningful Present.” The result was a set of essays from adult third culture kids, each different and each exploring what it was to find a niche as an adult. Writers talked about the jobs and communities they had […]

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People Have Friends; Governments Have Interests


When I first began dating my husband, I would joke that I dated him and 30 Iranians. Cliff had hundreds of friends and most of them were international students at the university he was attending. During those initial dates we would go to underground Marxist events, Nowruz parties, or sumptuous Wednesday night dinners of kebabs, […]

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The Eclectic Nativity Set


I’ve been a little lazy about Christmas this year. I did most of my shopping on the Internet (something I’ve sworn off of in the past). I delegated all the wrapping to our oldest daughter who seemed to actually enjoy it. I let the girls do most of the decorating this year too. We’re leaving […]

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The Simple Pin


Since November 8th, the day that shall live on in infamy, people have started wearing little safety pins. I was unaware of this until my friend Jill explained their significance and gave me one to wear. To wear a safety pin is to make a statement. Where this began is a little uncertain. There are […]

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A Short Correspondence on the Issue of Feeling Trapped


Dear Robynn, I enjoyed your “Friday’s with Robynn” post (A Hidden Pearl. January 29,2016). It really resonated with me, so thank you for posting it. It was very thought provoking for me. Earlier this year I experienced a very similar feeling to the one you had having returned from Thailand. My friends and I arrived […]

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Approaching the Holy

Our first task in approaching Another people Another culture Another religion Is to take off our shoes For the place we are approaching is holy Else we find ourselves Treading on another’s dreams More serious still, we may forget that God was there before our arrival. We have to try to sit where they sit, […]

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We Had a Prayer Meeting

Love is willing to step into the places that feel uncertain, awkward, and vulnerable for the great cause of unity and reconciliation.

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The Cup of Mediocrity

“I would rather die of thirst than drink from the cup of mediocrity” A number of years ago, this slogan from Stella Artois brewing company hung on our kitchen cupboard. It stayed there for at least four years. It captured the essence of what we felt life should be – a striving for adventure, discovery, excellence, […]

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Pondering Privilege – a Book Review

Pondering Privilege – Toward a Deeper Understanding of Whiteness, Race, and Faith* by Jody Wiley Fernando could not come to us at a better time. As media and newsfeeds fill with images and stories, many of us who are white really want to know how to do things better. Many of us, as uncomfortable as it is, […]

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The Bubbles Inside our Heads

Every time I do a workshop on culturally responsive health care, I use the picture above. The audience sees it on a big screen and I give them a minute to take it in. Then I ask them “What’s wrong with this picture?” It’s not long until someone gets it; until someone says “They are stereotyping […]

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Summer Fun Ideas that Promote Sanity and Potentially a Wider View of the World


These are ideas for (mostly) free stuff that can happen anywhere in the world. Teenage daughters should take note. Go for a walk. Create a scavenger hunt in your house, backyard or courtyard. Make playdoh. Play with playdoh. Brainstorm strange flavours of pancakes…make the top three strangest even if it means making up the recipes! Make window […]

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A Hymn, a Flag, and a Father-in-Law

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  The lights dim in the First Baptist Church of Daytona Beach, Florida. Music begins to play, and the music director welcomes us to the service. And then we begin to sing. My eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the Lord. We are singing The Battle Hymn of the Republic, a patriotic favorite that links […]

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Always Too Foreign

On Mother’s Day, my youngest son enters the house. “Today is a good day to read Between Worlds” he says. I look at him puzzled. “Why’s that?” The answer comes quickly: “Because I’m your son.” For better or for worse, we who have lived between pass on the in between to our children. We who are “always […]

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To You Whom I’ve Never Met

Last week, my husband came home with a package. After tearing off the brown paper, I opened a beautiful, decorative, handmade sign for our home. Someone who I’ve never met, who has never seen my world, took the time to make it for me. I couldn’t believe her kindness and generosity. And so I began […]

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Donald Trump, Walt Kowalski and Hope for Transformation

What happens when a bitter racist is transformed? In the movie Gran Torino, Walt Kowalski (played by Clint Eastwood) is a bitter old man living out his years in a neighborhood that has changed from working-class white to Hmong and Chinese.  He does not like it and makes no pretense of civility and no apology […]

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How to Build a Bridge

In an old book titled Observations on the Re-building of London Bridge by John Seaward, he says this: It is generally acknowledged that the construction of a commodious bridge over a wide, impetuous river is one of the noblest efforts of human genius. In no country that has made any advances in civilization has the […]

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Away in a Manger?

Away in a Manger…a repost. Away in a manger, no crib for a bed. The little Lord Jesus lays down his sweet head. The stars in the sky look down where he lay, The little Lord Jesus, asleep on the hay. I’ve read many lovely Christmas pieces — how alone Mary and Joseph were during their […]

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