A Short Correspondence on the Issue of Feeling Trapped

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Dear Robynn, I enjoyed your “Friday’s with Robynn” post (A Hidden Pearl. January 29,2016). It really resonated with me, so thank you for posting it. It was very thought provoking for me. Earlier this year I experienced a very similar feeling to the one you had having returned from Thailand. My friends and I arrived […]

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Hospitable Me

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One of the sweet daily habits of our marriage is that Lowell makes the bed. When we first got married and he was still dew eyed and love drunk he asked me what the one household task that I least liked was. I didn’t hesitate. I hate making the bed. I love a made bed […]

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Imagine for a Moment…

“Rootlessness — the implied weakness of it — is treated as a failure. That is plainly schizophrenic: In a world where one in seven people is displaced, the failure must be of planetary scale. It belongs to all of us. This is a century of dislocation not merely of body and home, but also of […]

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Belonging & Fitting In

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I was in the middle of writing a blog post when Lowell showed me this section in Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly. The quote shot straight to a deep place in my soul. Brown had identified and articulated so clearly the struggle I was trying to capture in the post I was agonizing over. I’m abandoning […]

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Faith, Doubt and Ames Street

Ames Street is a short street that goes from the main road down to the ocean in the Lanesville area of Gloucester. I wouldn’t ever have known about Ames Street if it weren’t for a memory from long ago. It was a grey August day many years ago. The ocean was stormy, waves rising high and […]

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She Lived a Large Life

The best thing I did all week was attend the funeral of Chong Wright. Chong and her husband, Wilbur, attended our church. Wilbur, a once tall soldier in the US army is now slightly stooped, his shoulders humbly sloping toward the earth. His Korean bride of fifty-one years, Chong, was tiny. Her legs were slightly […]

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Dear Linda

In the middle of the night I got a message from my friend Linda that lives on the other side of the world. She is hurting. They left South Asia several years after we did. Her husband took a position that he finds fulfilling and satisfying. She however has struggled to find her place. She […]

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On Welcoming the Third Culture Kid

The last week in August is upon us, and lamentations of “how quickly the summer has gone” can be heard all around. It’s the time of year when college towns begin to see old students return and many new ones come in. Among those old and new are those who have lived as third culture kids, […]

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A Life Overseas – Offending and Mending

Readers, would you join me today at A Life Overseas? I’ve retooled an old piece! Of all the difficult things we do in cross-cultural moves, finding places to live is near the top. We want to create space and place – we want to create home. And often our expectations are a planet away from our […]

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Cultural Competency – Tools for the Trade

If you have not read the previous posts on Cultural Competency, you are welcome to take a look! Today is the last in my 3-part series on Cultural Competency. Forget Diversity! It’s Cultural Competency that we Need Cultural Competency – How does it Help ************ “It’s easy! All it takes is caring!”  “All you have to do […]

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Cultural Competency – How Does it Help?

Four years ago, the FBI (Federal Bureau of Investigation) conducted a raid on a mosque in Miami, Florida. What could have been a disastrous, public relations nightmare for both the Muslim community and the FBI was carried out so well and so carefully that most of us had no idea the raid took place. I wrote […]

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You Know You Married a TCK When…..

All of you long suffering spouses and partners of TCK’s – this one’s for you: You know you married a TCK when….. 1. You’re listening to National Public Radio (NPR)  and she shouts – “I know that reporter”. 2. You’re playing Trivial Pursuit and she gets stuck on pop culture but gets every country question […]

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A Displaced Decorating Style

I love this piece by Robynn! I will explain more fully in the comments but if you are one that mixes samovars with reindeer, white lights with Egyptian perfume bottles, and Turkish bowls with books — in other words, if you mix all the cultures you love and feel a part of in the decorating […]

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A Word About the Weather…

A Word on the Weather by Robynn Nothing serves to highlight the differences between where I used to live and where I now live more poignantly than the weather. In South Asia the weather is a static reality. It rarely changes. For ten months of the year it’s hot. Overlay two months of monsoon rains […]

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Velvet Ashes – 7 Things to Know about Culture Shock

It’s Saturday and I’m sending you over to Velvet Ashes for a fantastic post by my friend Joann on culture shock. Joann wrote Living Well Where You Don’t Belong for Communicating Across Boundaries. She’s done it again with this post! I’ve posted the first couple paragraphs to give you a trailer! Then head to the […]

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A Life Overseas – On Living with Flexible Purpose

Readers – when I began blogging I wrote a short piece on living intentionally but flexibly. I have retooled the piece today over at A Life Overseas and I hope you’ll join me there! Here is an excerpt from the piece. Several years ago I read a newsletter from a couple who have spent many […]

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