From Privilege to Responsibility

"There was a darker side to high tea I would only confront much later. This pleasure that so delighted me as a little girl was a survival of Pakistan’s colonial past. The “British Raj” era, or the era of British rule, lasted for almost 100 years. It included the entire Indian subcontinent. Pakistan was born … Continue reading From Privilege to Responsibility

#Hashtags and Relationships

It's difficult to write today, but it would be worse to keep silent. "I don't want to become a #hashtag. Becoming a #hashtag is a very real fear in my community."  Yesterday at the end of a long and good meeting, a few of of us began talking. The conversation was around race and privilege, … Continue reading #Hashtags and Relationships

Unequal Treatment

These past two days I've been at a summit on race and equity. Specifically, A Call to Government and Community. The conference goes across spheres and participants represent housing, justice, immigration, education, the arts, and health. It has been full of stories and ideas --ideas that I agree with and ideas that I don't agree with. … Continue reading Unequal Treatment

Donald Trump, Walt Kowalski and Hope for Transformation

What happens when a bitter racist is transformed? In the movie Gran Torino, Walt Kowalski (played by Clint Eastwood) is a bitter old man living out his years in a neighborhood that has changed from working-class white to Hmong and Chinese.  He does not like it and makes no pretense of civility and no apology … Continue reading Donald Trump, Walt Kowalski and Hope for Transformation

Traveling While White

Blogger's note: I have received some good feedback and pushback from this article - always good when you write a piece like this. Based on the feedback, I realize that it's is not necessarily the simple black and white issue I have made it to be. I still hold to my original premise, that many, … Continue reading Traveling While White

Truth Echoes

"Did you hear? Did you hear what they did about immigration?" My friend's eyes were big and troubled. "No." I said. Janira is originally from El Salvador. She has been living in the United States for over 15 years. She works at a hospital, pays taxes, and tries to get by. She is a U.S … Continue reading Truth Echoes

For my Friend and the Kids he’s Raising

I sit in a row of cubicles toward the front of a large building in downtown Boston. One of my cubicle mates is a man from Malawi that I'll call Paul. He is a handsome, intelligent man and we have become good friends in the past few years. Today he asked me if I had … Continue reading For my Friend and the Kids he’s Raising

For Love of Little K

For Love of Little K by Robynn I just spent a couple of hours catching up with my friend Kimmery. Because of the nature of the summers we’ve both had we haven’t seen each other in forever. It was fabulous to visit her in her new place, see boxes mostly unpacked, pictures already hung on the … Continue reading For Love of Little K

Unequal Treatment and Tuskegee

“For a serious offense writes” psychiatrist Aaron Lazare “such as a betrayal of trust or public humiliation, an immediate apology misses the mark. It demeans the event. Hours, days, weeks, or even months may go by before both parties can integrate the meaning of the event and its impact on the relationship. The care and … Continue reading Unequal Treatment and Tuskegee

Making Peace with Changing Communities

What happens when a bitter racist is transformed? In the movie Gran Torino, Walt Kowalski (played by Clint Eastwood) is a bitter old man living out his years in a neighborhood that has changed from working-class white to Hmong and Chinese.  He does not like it and makes no pretense of civility and no apology … Continue reading Making Peace with Changing Communities