I’m over at A Life Overseas today! I would love for you to join me there. Here is an excerpt to get you started:
A few weeks ago, someone who is moving overseas contacted me. This is her first time living overseas, she is going into the unknown, and wants to be as prepared as possible.
Here is what I said to her:
Dear Lucy (name has been changed)
Wow – I’m excited for you and not a little envious! This is an amazing opportunity, and though I know based on your email that you are scared, I think you may find this is one of those gifts that is given to you and your family for this time of your life.
That being said, you asked for practical, not philosophical advice – so here goes:
- Learn the numbers as quickly as possible. You will find them everywhere and it will help you to tell time, understand the prices of items, and tell people how many children you have!
- Learn the currency and don’t translate it into US dollars. If you do, you will either spend too much money thinking “everything is so cheap,” or too little money and thus, not get the things you need.
- Take things that will immediately make your new space feel like home – a few pictures, candles, a couple of books. That way, even as you’re waiting for the rest of your household goods, you can begin to create a home.
- Recognize that your children’s grief is real, real, real. Allow them to be sad without putting caveats on the sadness (eg “I know you’re sad, but think how much fun travel will be…”) Travel may be fun, but it will not give them back their friends and schools. Allow them to grieve, and grieve with them.
- You are arriving in the summer, a time when expat communities dwindle, so it will probably take some time to connect with others. Still – limit the amount of time that your kids spend on social media, just as you would limit social media in your home country. You cannot, I repeat, you cannot live in two places at once. Believe me, I’ve tried, and it doesn’t work. So limit the time they spend, and try to get out and explore.
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3 thoughts on “A Life Overseas – Thoughts and Advice for a First-time Expat”
I remember making it a point to learn the word “help” and “thank you” in our early years in Pakistan. We spent just a month in Central Asia recently and I tried to learn and use “hello” and “thank you” whenever appropriate. My, that brought warm smiles.
Learning numbers is one of the first things to learn, direction words are also good – left, right, straight, etc.
Both you and Tebbe are right on….sound advice.