“I know, I know. You are shocked that I am emailing. So at the risk of being rejected, would you be up for breakfast this Saturday? Breakfast with a side dish of repentance?”
This was the email I sent to my dear friend, a true soul mate, this past week. The truth is, despite our deep friendship and the roads we have traveled together through life, I had not seen her for a year and a half. While I have my excuses, they aren’t enough. I missed her, I needed to see her and I needed to say I was sorry, so sorry, for not guarding and treasuring our friendship.
I realized that repenting was a verb – it needed action on my part to move back into a restored relationship. Relationships take work and they are worth it.
The older I get, the more I realize that these friendships are precious. There are not that many with who I can claim this type of friendship – the “sharing of the soul” without reservation. So if they are precious I need to treat them as such. There were moments when it felt like there was so much to catch up on that I couldn’t do it, it felt like things were too hard to explain or justify.
But as soon as I saw her and we held on to each other, hugging, and saying how long it had been, how much we had missed each other, I knew that I didn’t have to justify and explain. I needed to repent, be forgiven, and move on.
So breakfast was just that. Curled up on a couch we shared hot coffee, fresh strawberries and hot cross buns. I smiled as I thought later about the significance of the choice of hot cross buns. It’s only through the cross that I am capable of admitting wrong and repenting to make it right.
Have a relationship that needs mending? I highly recommend breakfast with a hearty side dish of repentance.
If you’re tuning in to Communicating Across Boundaries for the first time, check out some of these posts others have liked!