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Sometimes it’s important to go back to where the story begins.
The call to prayer awoke us at the first light of dawn in the village where my family made our home. It was hauntingly melodic and it was loud! It was not yet summer but the heat of Sindh, a southern province in Pakistan was felt even in those early morning hours. To keep cool my parents had us sleep on rope beds called charpais set on the flat roof. There we would rest, shrouded with mosquito netting, our gauzy weapons against the insects known to bring about raging fevers from malaria.
I was 4 years old and this is my earliest memory. A faded black and white photograph confirms this memory as I, smiling beneath the white netting look at the camera while my older brother Tommy, positioned on his bed beside mine, looks at me. With the growing light and sounds from the mosque down the street we would try and keep quiet as long as we could but it was a losing battle for any parent. Maternal pleas of “try and get more sleep kids” were met with muffled voices and eyes wide with the wonder of morning until finally my mother would give in and allow us to fully wake, contributing our sounds to the roosters, birds and Muezzin calling the faithful to prayer.
In the hall of an old Inn by the ocean is a sign that reads “Home is Where Our Story Begins”. For a third culture kid who questions the definition of home, this is both reassuring and sad. If home is where our story begins, what happens when we can’t go back?
Key to the quote is the word ‘story’, for one thing third culture kids have are stories. Detailed stories of travel between worlds, forging cross cultural relationships and connections; grief and loss and more loss; goodbyes and hello’s and more goodbyes.
There are many examples in the book of Exodus where God tells the people of Israel to remember their story, their beginning; to remember who they were. They couldn’t go back to Egypt, but they were to remember the stories – stories of wonder and deliverance; of the power of God and provision. They were to remember the beginning.
There are times when it’s important to go back to the beginning.
And so I started this post by going back to the beginning. Back to those first memories that I am never quite certain of – was it a memory because I saw a picture and heard a story, or was it a real memory? I don’t know. All I know is this is where my story begins. Home.
Where did your story begin? No matter who or where, your story began somewhere. I invite you to take us into your beginning in the comment section. Take us home to where your story began.
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Home is where the heart is. No? Yes?
Change is imminent, whether you are an expat living away from your passport country or someone who has never moved 5 km away from the village where they were born. It is unrealistic to expect that the things we are so used to will always remain the same. Growth and so called development have changed both the familiar landscapes as well as the priorities of the people we knew.
When I go back to India I am confronted more and more with a sense of alienation as all that was familiar has slowly been obliterated.
My husband and I both grew up in huge houses surrounded by overgrown acres of grounds. These houses now, with many like them are only a memory replaced by tall buildings eating up even the constellation we grew up looking up. Light pollution in the cities has diminished the light of the stars so even if any sky is visible the stars are barely discernible The marshes behind the building where we bought our apartment in 2003 have shrunk so much that i can barely hear the beautifully poignant call of the plover which I used to love. It seems that every builder developer and politician has made it his personal mission to destroy all that is natural and beautiful, which I love. You have no idea how it breaks my heart. The house I grew up in a huge mansion now lies razed to the ground, the land totally flattened, awaiting a new crop of cramped houses. There are no doors or windows or walls to go back to, to find my childhood and the rooms I played with as a girl now exist only in my memory. Sometimes, wherever I am, I feel transported to those surroundings and feel a sense of displacement. So does home surround us or do we carry it within us. I don’t know, i only know that a number of places I have been to keep calling me back. At the same time my loved ones keep calling me,
In the days when every school day started with a hymn, a prayer and a Bible story I remember so clearly in the lovely hymn “There’s a friend for little children” the verse which goes: “There’s a crown for little children above the bright blue sky, / And all who look to Jesus shall wear it by and by!” At this point I invariably cast my eyes upwards as I did so want to get that crown!
I love this. I love that you remember this hymn so well and that even at a young age you knew there was more to this than meets the eye.
I wrote a piece back when I was 13 (30 years ago!) entitled “Home is where I feed my cat.” dealing with very similar feelings: the lament of not being able to fully return ‘home’, the transient nature of such places, the nostalgia which looms larger than reality sometimes… and the problem of uncertainty: not knowing what was ‘real’ and what was created in retrospective longing…
For me, my religious heritage seems more of an explanation of ‘who’ I am (and therefore ‘where’ is home) than anything: it is the salient point of this missionary kid’s life–the one uniting factor which could make some semblance of sense of it all. It becomes interesting, however, when your religious views also become more fluid (in my case, changing denominations)…
I love that home is where you feed your cat- how perfect is that?!
You echo Robynn’s voice in bringing up faith heritage and I agree. that is crucial for me as well. That reminder of a bigger picture and glimpse of the world beyond that has everything to do with our present reality.
I have the same sign in our back entry way…and yet I’ve changed it to read, “Home is where your story ends”…. because the beginning seems so fragile and so hard to explain but the ending is sure and certain. Perhaps I’m denying my self my true story…perhaps I need to fully realize that “Home is where your story begins”…. Hmm. I’m not sure. I’ll need to think on this some more.
I don’t know where home is, I don’t know if it is in the apartment we bought with such hope or the little bungalow we were so excited about or in our rented apartment in Kuwait where our greatest memories with our kids are or….I feel restless and rootless most times. Why? Can home even be in a place of temporary residence as the Earth will always be for us.
Maybe we at least get glimpses of home in all of these places but real home is, as you and several others point out, a spiritual thing.
I don’t know Robynn- I think your theology is more accurate than mine for in truth Home is the end for us/ eternity and finally a perfect connection to God. So while I think our beginnings are critical I think you have offered a far better picture by changing the phrase. Thank you!
I share these sentiments of your “beginning.” What a beautiful place for your first memories!
They are such wonderful memories! Thanks for being a part of them.
Four of my grandchildren are having a similar experience – recently moving from Egypt to Oman and now to Bahrain. They, and their parents, are in God’s hands – and God is faithful and good.
What I feel really happy about is the richness of experience my children have been exposed to by being expats. It has made them such amazing people and I am sure your grandchildren too will be the same.
Oh so well said – it’s that wonderful lesson at a young age that the world is a big place.
And they will have amazing stories of the faithfulness of God. And part of their story is grandparents that love and pray for them You must miss them. What amazes me is how similar the feelings are among TCKs despite generational differences.